Research shows that the female lion, or lioness, is basically… a bad-ass. She is the bread winner, she lays down the law, and she is the protector. So, why not apply this into your relationship?
There is a certain stigma that the females in a relationship should be the cook, maid, and lover; while the male brings in the money, wears the “pants” in the relationship, and makes all the calls. In my opinion, I think that the relationship should be a team. Here is why.
In a lion pride, the head male usually has a female mate, but has multiple females in his pride. In studies, a majority of head males stay with the same mate. Males are lazy in the pride, yes I said lazy. They hang out within the pride, while the FEMALE goes out and gets the bread. They tend to hunt smaller, easier animals. While the females are out, the male(s) stay back to attack the bigger, harder animals.
In the evening, the male and female protects each other. The male sits behind the female. The female scans in front of them to see if any oncoming enemies are around, while the male protects her back. He would be the first to be attacked from behind. At times, the lioness is the one sitting behind the male so he is not attacked! She also alerts the male lions of any enemies causing a threat.
What is symbolized by a lion? You have seen on Wizard of Oz where the lion is scared and a coward. Right? He eventually finds his strength and is no longer afraid. A lion represents strength and courage. Per One Kind Planet, “They are also common symbols for royalty and stateliness, hence the phrase ‘king of the jungle’. Ancient Egyptians venerated lions as their war deities due to their strength, power and fierceness.”
I am going to tell you a story that I experienced while in South Africa on a mission trip. On one of our last days, the townspeople took us to an open-range safari. We heard a huge uproar within a field next to us. We saw three elephants running into the brush. But why? Shortly after, there was… you guessed it. A FEMALE lion. But didn’t I say that males usually attack the bigger animals? Indeed they do, however, the FEMALE tries to attack first to protect the head male. It was such an amazing view.
How can this be applied to our relationship with our husband? Us woman need to be his lioness. Especially as a step mother, our role grows because he is dealing with an ex-wife. In our situation, one of the ex-wives is very high-conflict. Therefore, he does need that support from this significant other. Don’t be his word, but back his word! If he is having a rough time communicating with her, try to assist him. If he is simply pissed off to the world because she is being the character that she is, be his lioness. Protect him. Now I am not saying to take the beating from it all, but protect him. You would expect him to do the same thing, so be that lioness.
At the end of the day, be a pride and protect each other. Don’t fall under the male and female role stigma. Protect each other. I cannot repeat myself enough. Be his lioness.
“I am not afraid of an army of lions led by a sheep; I am afraid of an army of sheep led by a lion.” –Alexander the Great
Don’t let everyone think you are a sheep, weak and scared. Be the lioness and show where you stand.
You got this momma.